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Kids habits (Good/Bad )
Written by A Kids Site Staff on 12/31/69

Every man is full of different different habits - GOOD and BAD. And so are the kids. Rather, it should be said that everybody starts developing habits ( good or bad ) in his /her childhood only. So it is an important responsibility of all parents to provide a good atmosphere to the kids helping to grow as a good human beings in every walk of life.

Now to provide an atmosphere, parents will have to be careful about certain things. First, be patient and observe the behaviour of your kid. God has created every human being in a unique different way, and so is your own kid - a unique creation of super GOD. So please remember NEVER NEVER COMPARE HIM WITH ANYBODY IN THE WORLD. Just observe him, and try to notice why he is behaving like that.

Parents find many habits and behaviors of their children .When you want to change an unwanted behavior, it helps to first understand why your child is doing it. Often bad habits are just a coping strategy. Your child may fall back on these behaviors when they are stressed, bored, tired, frustrated, unhappy, insecure, or falling asleep. Many of these "bad" habits are calming and soothing to the child. Most of the time, these behaviors are just "phases" or habits-not serious medical problems-and the child typically outgrows them. Managing them can be difficult, however. In general, you should ignore bad habits. Yelling, calling attention to the habit and punishment do not usually work to stop the behavior (and may even increase it!), but praise, positive rewards, and patience are likely to help.

  • First, try ignoring the annoying behavior. Your child will probably outgrow the habit with time. Giving a lot of attention (even though it's negative) may actually encourage the behavior.
  • Praise your child for good behavior. The best kind of praise simply describes what you see that you'd like to see more of. Catch your child being good, and tell them you noticed. For example, tell them you noticed they weren't chewing their nails.
  • It may be nearly impossible to stop the bad habit until the child becomes interested in stopping. For example, a little girl may actually get enough "benefit" out of biting her nails that she will not be willing to stop. When she gets a little older, though, she may be interested in having nice looking nails. Then you will be able to help her quit.
  • If there are lots of behaviors you want to change, start by focusing on one or two of the most bothersome or dangerous ones. Don't try to make too many changes all at once.
  • Try to figure out what may be making your child stressed, Give your child chances to talk to you about things that might be worrying them-make eye contact.
  • Let your child make decisions whenever possible, by giving them acceptable choices. For example, "Would you rather have toast or cereal for breakfast?" This will help your child feel in control, reducing stress and frustration.
  • Have a few positively stated rules, and explain the reasons behind them.
  • Make sure your child understands the results of breaking the rules.
  • Sleep, and participation in age appropriate extracurricular activities at school and in the community.
  • Visit your doctor for regular well child exams and keep up to date on all of the recommended vaccines.
  • Learn effective discipline techniques. Keep in mind that discipline is not just punishment, but instead is a "system of teaching and nurturing that prepares children to achieve competence, self-control, self-direction, and caring for others." (AAP definition)
  • Avoid physical punishment, including spanking or yelling, that just reinforces to your child that these behaviors are acceptable.
  • Learn to pay positive attention to your child and give frequent praise, so that he feels secure and loved.
  • Limit television viewing and encourage reading and storytelling.
  • Practice food safety: washing fruits and vegetables, not eating undercooked meats or poultry, and not drinking unpasteurized milk or juices.
  • Brush teeth with a fluoride toothpaste (use a non-fluoride toothpaste until your child is able to spit it out) twice a day and have your child seen regularly by a dentist (after age three). Encourage flossing each day once your child is about eight years old.
  • Supervise your child's use of the computer (younger children should not have unsupervised access to the Internet), computer games, movies, and know what they have access to at their friend's homes.
  • Learn to communicate with your child, by avoiding too much criticism, actively listening to his problems, and showing respect for his ideas.
  • Help build your child's self esteem.
  • Prepare your school age child for puberty and sexual development and begin sexuality education, including that abstinence is the safest way to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

It is also very important to begin communicating with your school age child to help prevent them from picking up bad habits. Children whose parents talk to them regularly are at much less risk for experimenting with cigarettes, alcohol and drugs. Teach them how to avoid situations where drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes are present and to choose friends who also choose not to use these substances. Emphasize to them that these substances can hurt them, can make them sick, can cause decrease lung function and problems playing sports, and that it is OK to say no. Also, do not let them attend parties that are unsupervised by adults and let your child know that they can communicate openly with you about these difficult subjects. Watch for the warning signs of drug use, including a sudden change in your child's behavior or personality, decreased performance in school, or changes in what friends they associate with.